Time for the armchair psychological report: I agree on one item here, that our society today has changed and it is NOT conducive to promoting emotion bonds between people as we have known in the past, and frankly this sucks! Unfortunately it is what it is.
Well I can relate to this to a degree, having recognized some of this in myself a while back and work with bringing balance back to the fold. It creeps up on you before you know it at times, and then you reach a point where you say, "wait a minute", been there, done that. Then there is the other side of the coin where you have no connection to technology and those folks are also completely out of the loop too, so it comes back to balance.
One item in particular though with all of this social change though is just frustration and anger. I see that quite frequently sometimes as being a target. You know this happens a lot today with being in the wrong emotional spot at the wrong time, with friends, co-workers lashing out at who just happens to be there at the time, makes for some really strained relationships and further deteriorates the emotional bonding we have all known. I have a friend who has pretty much lost voice communication with his own daughter and last week we were talking about it.
She always answers a text message, but refuses the face to face or voice communication and he's really pondering what to do and how to go about getting that back, could be a chore, but taking the first step and reaching out is the first step and there's no guarantee that will work either, but hey, keep at it as persistence some times pays off. There might have been something that created this scenario too, and it could be a little of both, personal and the disconnected bonding society syndrome.
If we don't figure out how to "re-bond", then the feelings of loneliness could take over, and think about those you are bonding with if they exist, is it working for you or is it time to bring more in to the fold. I have my time every day whereby I dedicate to the postings on the blog and my writing, which is quiet time, but after that is done, time to walk the dog, find some entertainment with those individuals I care for and even later, a glass of wine or a drink, to unwind. I think this book has some information and value we can all benefit from if we cans stand outside ourselves and look back inside. BD
There are three core dimensions to feeling lonely intimate isolation, which comes from not having anyone in your life you feel affirms who you are; relational isolation, which comes from not having face-to-face contacts that are rewarding; and collective isolation, which comes from not feeling that you're part of a group or collective beyond individual existence," he said. It is not solitude or physical isolation itself, but rather the subjective sense of isolation that Cacioppo's work shows to be so profoundly disruptive. Yet, outward circumstances such as moving to a new community or losing an intimate partner can trigger loneliness.
The problem of social isolation will likely grow as conventional societal structures fade. The average household size is decreasing, and by 2010, 31 million Americans—roughly 10 percent of the population—will live alone. Sociologists also have found that people report significantly fewer close friends and confidants than those a generation ago.
"Lonely people feel a hunger," Cacioppo added. "The key is to realize that the solution lies not in being fed, but in cooking for and enjoying a meal with others."
The studies, reported in a new book, Loneliness: Human Nature and the Need for Social Connection, show that a sense of rejection or isolation disrupts not only abilities, will power and perseverance, but also key cellular processes deep within the human body.
Loneliness undermines health as well as mental well-being
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